How to Get Rid of Self Limiting Beliefs

Before you can get rid of your self-limiting beliefs, you need to know what those beliefs are. This post helps you discover, reframe and overcome your limiting beliefs.

The brain is a powerful goal-seeking mechanism. It makes whatever you put into it come true in your life because human beings have a powerful need for consistency between what they believe to be true and what really is true.

You can choose what you want to believe. You don’t have to believe what seems true based on past experience. The past does not equal the future.

Limiting Beliefs Exercise

​The first step is to find out what your unresourceful beliefs are. Complete the following sentences:

*Note: We are not looking for what you learned in self-help books, or those things you think you should believe about yourself.  What we’re looking for are the things you say to yourself when you’re really down, and feeling the worst.

I am _____________.

People are _____________.

The world is _____________.

Once you identify your negative core beliefs, decide what beliefs you would need in order to create the results you want. Then, you can begin to install the new way of thinking about yourself.

You’ll start to notice your thoughts creating your feelings. Then the fun begins because once you realize you can choose your thoughts and control your emotions. You can decide to choose resourceful thoughts and emotions.

Three Steps to Release a Negative Thought

  1. Become aware of the negative thought or emotion;
  2. Surrender to it, by allowing it to happen, and release it by saying, “Next!”
  3. Refocus your thoughts on what you want to achieve, and take action.

Re-Writing Your Story: Reframe Experience

Tell yourself your own negative story of victimhood, how someone did you wrong, and give it plenty of emotion, but don’t re-experience it. Just tell it as if you are reporting just how bad it was. You only have 1-2 minutes to tell it.

What does that story feel like in your body? Feel it, see it and/or hear it. Where in your body are you feeling this negative emotion? Feel that.

Now, say to yourself out loud, “I don’t want to feel this anymore. I am ready to experience something new.”

Next, ask yourself, “What do I WANT to feel?” Connect and anchor into your solar plexus and heart area to help identify what it is you want to feel instead.

Move this new, positive feeling sense from your mind (where most of us think we are feeling) into your body.

What does it feel like in your body to have the new positive energies that you want? What does it feel like in your body to feel peace? To feel joy? To feel confidence? To feel abundance? Where in your body do you feel these glorious energies? Stay in your body and really feel these new, positive energies take root.

Take it to the next level now—describe what your life looks like with these feelings. Tell this new story with as much emotional investment in it as you used to have for the past story you held. How does your body feel now in these new energies? What experiences come naturally now that you feel so different from the past? What now flows to you that is aligned with this new vibrational blueprint?

Take that story of what you want back into your body again and feel it. Imagine that you are storing it there and that you can access it anytime. It will be there for you. The body remembers.

Give it as long as it takes to adjust to how wonderful it now feels to be you.

Rewrite Your Negative Stories, Release Negative Thoughts

Next time you notice yourself telling a negative story (“I’m a failure”, “Nobody ever treats me right” etc.), write down the negative story.

After you’ve written down the story (s a summary in a few lines), ask yourself these questions about the story and write down the answers.

It’s good practice to always look for reasons your story could be false.

True or false: Is the story true or false? Write down a few reasons why this story is true or false.

Time traveling: Is your story about the past, present, or future? It’s easy to become stuck somewhere other than the present, repeating outdated stories, or telling yourself a negative story that hasn’t happened yet.

Judgement: Ask yourself: “am I judging myself or others in this story?” Judgement is generally an answer to the question “who is right and who is wrong.” Then, ask yourself if that judgement is justified.

Accounting: Make a list of pros and cons of telling yourself, and believing, the story. If the negatives outweigh the positives, it’s time to stop telling that story.

Opposites: Ask yourself honestly if the opposite of your story is true. You’ll be surprised how often this is the case.

Self Limiting Beliefs List

Check out these 5 common limiting beliefs, and learn how to overcome them.

​1. Other people’s success will diminish mine.

Every time you feel jealous or envy someone else’s success, you’re telling the universe that you don’t believe in your own abilities to create abundance, wealth and success in your own life.

Like attracts like and every time you feel true excitement for others, you’ll be attracting more success into your life as well.

2. I need to struggle to succeed.

In order to change your mindset, take action on things that are in alignment with your goals and values so it doesn’t feel like hard work.

3. My parents didn’t do enough for me.

every time you blame your parents, your lack of education or your lack of resources, in most instances this is just an excuse for you to remain where you are

Remember that YOU (and only you!) have the power to change your current situation, and it’s your choice to use to your advantage everything that you’ve learned from your parents (the good and the not so good) and be grateful for this knowledge that has shaped you into the person you are now.

​4. I don’t have enough time.

The truth is we all have the same amount of hours in the day, however the difference is knowing how to manage your time wisely.

Whenever you find yourself saying ‘I don’t have time’, make sure you’re really not saying ‘I don’t want to’, as you may be using this excuse to not take action out of fear.

5. ​I’m not good enough to succeed.

Remember that if things or situations don’t go as planned, it’s not because you’re not good enough, it’s simply because there’s something different or even better ahead for you.

The next time you feel stuck in life by a limiting belief, ask yourself, ‘How can I prove that this is not true?’

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