Keep it Simple, Lazarus

What is the Lazarus Technique? The Lazarus Technique in NLP calls us to simplify an issue into just one word, or sentence, or phrase. It’s the K.I.S.S. principle. Have you ever known someone who likes to dominate a conversation? Forcing such people to distill their comments, stories etc. into just one word or phrase. Have … Read more

Well-Formed Outcomes & Future-Pacing

Irish Paradise

Sometimes, we focus on what we don’t want, or on what could go wrong. This exercise flips the script, and makes us think, “What if everything goes right?” Before we dive into experiencing and future-pacing well-formed outcomes, let’s review the NLP jargon for the five main senses. Sensory Modalities: Your 5 Main Senses Visual → … Read more

Why Can’t You? Challenge Your Assumptions

Modal Operators

It’s important to challenge your assumptions. I’m going to give you a high-level overview of a couple of useful, interconnected conversational change strategies from NLP or neuro-linguistic programming: the meta model, and modal operators. The Meta Model People over-complicate the meta model. All you really need to remember is that the meta model asks simple … Read more

Present State to Desired State

Mind the Gap

“Present State to Desired State” is a fundamental model in NLP. The present state is where you are. The desired state is where you’re trying to go. The larger the gap between where you are and where you want to be, the more turmoil you’ll feel. The present state can also be called the comfort … Read more

The Relational Triangle

Caution sign

According to NLP practitioners, we all make meanings based on relational comparisons. How we relate influences how we communicate. How we relate is a cause. How we communicate is an effect. We need to understand how we relate to take ownership of how we operate and create change in our relationships. Have you ever caught … Read more

Associated or Dissociated?

Associated or dissociated

Dissociation used to remind me of dissociative identity disorder, or multiple personality disorder, as it was once called. Now, I understand that being associated or dissociated can be a natural and healthy phenomenon. Being associated or dissociated is a crucial submodality distinction in NLP. Being dissociated is like being an omniscient narrator, observing apart from … Read more

NLP History in Brief

NLP in Brief

A Quick Definition of NLP NLP stands for Neuro-Linguistic Programming. NLP is a powerful framework of ideas, strategies, models, methods and principles that can enhance self-development, and help people achieve personal change or transformation. NLP was founded in the early 1970s by Richard Bandler, a student of psychology, and John Grinder, an Assistant Professor of … Read more